The Top 100 Inner Selves
Not really - this is just a list of many typical Inner selves - there is no such thing as a Top 100 list because the selves are so unique and individual for each person
A LIGHT HEARTED LIST OF TYPICAL SELVES YOU MEET EACH DAY
Please dont take this list seriously! There really is no
official list of the inner selves by name and certainly no Top
100. However many people have asked me for a list of names and this is just a rough
collection. There are many more, not listed here, so feel free to add your own and drop me
an E-mail telling me about them so I can include them here.
Inner selves are often very similar to characters from the world of drama, films and TV such as Rhett Butler, Shirley Valentine or Xena, characters from bedtime stories and ancient myths and legends such as Aphrodite, Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty; and from real life historical dramas such as George Washington or Captain Bligh. All these best loved or most hated figures have become favourites because they reflect archetype selves (the most common and most typical inner selves for so many people) so it is not at all surprising to find an inner self adopting a name that goes with their energy or personality.
TYPICAL CONDITIONAL PROTECTOR PRIMARY SELVES
Any of the above conditional protectors can beprimary selves for you or another individual
TYPICAL HIGH INTENSITY (Dramatic Energy) SELVES
High Intensity selves are less logical, more animal and instinctual, using drama, cunning, confusion, high-levels of energy or manipulation to draw attention away from the vulnerable selves. They "protect" by being so intense that no one notices the vulnerable self behind the protector.
TYPICAL DISEMPOWERING (YOU CANT DO IT) SELVES
Disempowering selves stop you experiencing your real power, your real ability and block your emotional growth, because they believe their way is the best for keeping you out of pain. They treat the risk of vulnerability as being as bad as vulnerability itself and they associate taking action with the of risk, pain or worse. These are the selves that are often most responsible for disowning your natural power selves and your adult I Can Do It abilities.
TYPICAL DISOWNED SELVES
Even the disowned selves are protectors, in the sense that by staying disowned, they save the vulnerable selves from being shamed, blamed or hurt. By keeping right out of the picture, they do not put the vulnerable selves at risk.
The private and hidden (too vulnerable) parts or not really selves. Rather they are parts of our personailty that the inner selves are wanting to protect. These are the parts that help you to get closer to others and to yourself, and give you the power to show your most vulnerable feelings. It is the openness and naturalness of the private parts that makes them (and you) lovable, worth nurturing, caring for, protecting and safe to be with.
NOTE: In the Growing Awareness program the term "Aware Adult" is not the same as or used used in place of the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra use the term. The term "Aware Adult" also reflects many of the characteristics of the part Hal and Sidra call the "Awareness Self" or "The Watcher" I find this variation easier for Australians to understand, particularly as the term "ego" in Australia has so many different connotations and meanings for people (some of them quite negative)
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