Make positive changes in your life (the changes you want, the changes that really make a difference) by expanding your self awareness and increasing your sense of self-empowerment. Discover who you really are, achieve what you really want to with your life.  Learn how to use voice dialogue to make positive changes in your life (the changes you want, the changes that really make a difference).

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This website was the original 1995 site that started the Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness Series  -

Websites in the 2008 Growing Awareness Series

Rules for the School of Life
1. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.  Each day you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think your assignments are stupid and irrelevant but each one has a purpose that is special for you.

2. An assignment will be repeated until you have learned that lesson. Do  you find yourself experiencing the same (unpleasant) event again and again? One of your current learning projects is to discover whatever you need to do so it either stops happening or no longer affects you . There are another 9 rules like this click here,

Negative Core Beliefs
Whatever your core beliefs are, they help to define your unique and individual core issues and these in turn control the way your inner selves react when those issues are triggered. Whatever your most negative core belief about yourself might be, that's the one your inner selves will tend most to "dance around".  There are hundreds of core issues and core beliefs, so you can expect that yours may be quite different from those held by the person next to you. Examples of typical negative core beliefs.

Bottom line issues
One of the reasons for interviewing your inner selves (inner selves) is to learn from them about your bottom line or life issues and to be able to distinguish these from what may seem important but which turn out to be only symptoms pointing to the real issues.

Identifying a life issue starts when you notice a group of similar and repetitive problem patterns. You or someone you know keeps experiencing these same patterns again and again through life. If it's a bottom line issue it will keep coming up in different ways, in your conversation, how you see other people, what irritates you in others, what you like in other people. It will usually stand out in the kind of work you do and how you like that  work, the kind of films you enjoy, how you like to relax. Whatever you do, wherever you go there it is again. That's a life issue.

Your most powerful "life issues" are related to the problems that worry you most, but they may also be involved in some of your best solutions.

 Addictive cycles - over medication and vulnerability   
 It is normal for people to try to reduce their pain and emotional pain is no exception. A person experiencing deep emotional wounding or anxiety is extremely vulnerable and will do whatever they can to block it. When the helpful selves in your inner village (inner selves) run out of ways to reduce the pain and can no longer provide protection, the next thing is to try substances or processes from outside the village. At first these often seem to work almost miraculously, so the process is repeated more and more often. But sooner or later the treatment starts to lose its effectiveness.

 "Is it really safe for me to change?"       
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these pages is great ,but only if you are ready to change. And that includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect on your life. The  methods we describe here do work, but the changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what is going to happen before you begin. Then you can change with confidence.

Power, control and individuality issues in relationships   

Choosing Between Personal and Impersonal Channels -   

Negative Core beliefs - where they come from - how to balance them

Muddled Magic and the Little Trauma Witch -   

The troublesome ten percent  

Inner selves and how they handle emotions and feelings


voice dialogue is the process developed by Drs Hal and Sidra Stone. It still works as well as ever, we love it, we still use it daily with our clients, and support it 100%. We conduct regular training in Voice Dialogue in Brisbane and in the Gold Coast and  Buderim, Noosa Yandina areas.

To read and copy the latest articles about VOICE DIALOGUE  go to our new Voice Dialogue site:

Names of Practicing  voice dialogue  facilitators (Australia only)

Links to  voice dialogue  websites (Australia and overseas)

Practicing  voice dialogue facilitators (voice dialogue or  Growing Awareness) anywhere in Australia, please send us your contact details if you would like to be added to our list  -  (Australia only)
Listings are FREE of course.
  We are also happy to include links to your website on our site on a mutual basis

Older pages about  Voice Dialogue - techniques and processes

Articles of interest to FACILITATORS on this website:


Sex addiction in Australia

OR....take a look at an alternative ........

Our Growing Awareness 2005  story-telling approach is  based very closely on Hal and Sidra Stone's Psychology of the Selves (and voice dialogue). To find out more about this alternate approach click on this link which will take you to our new  website

From December 2004 many new postings will not appear on this website but will be found on

The process (if you are familiar with "voice dialogue") is still voice dialogue. The difference is in the way we explain it. We follow an alternative, more down to earth, storytelling path to describe what is happening. It's an experiment to see if there is an alternate way to explain and simplify self-awareness work so people can use it more easily and get results sooner. 

It seems to work anyway, whether you call it  "voice dialogue " or try the every-day terms we are experimenting with.  We know that other people around the world are also trying similar alternative approaches. If you are reading this and would like to make contact please e-mail us: 

New website   Go to  Love your Inner child and there's a special page where your own inner child can leave messages and ask questions.- Go to

Pages on this website about making Relationships Work

Power, control and individuality issues in relationships   

Personal and impersonal styles 2004

Choosing Between Personal and Impersonal Channels  

Abandonment and engulfment issues - Why inner selves cannot help with this

Grown-up relationships and different levels of Individual freedom

Fights where inner matriarchs and inner patriarchs take over -

Characteristics of the Inner Patriarch and Inner Matriarch - 2004

Explanation of Bonding Patterns - 2003  

Bonding patterns  - Case Studies1 - 2003

Bonding patterns  - Case Studies2 -2003

Bonding Patterns - getting out of them - 2003

The Many Languages of Love

Under age selves (inner selves)

LATEST LINKS 2007  Click here

Sex addiction in Australia

Pages on this website about working with Inner Mother and Inner Father

Inner Mother and Inner Father - the Induction Process -2002

Example of Inner parent induction - Inner father - 2002

1. You can find over 50 more FREE articles in the   Table of Contents for the book "Growing Awareness"   
 Each separate article is linked and highlighted in the table of contents)    You can click on each link on the Table of Contents page to go directly to each one of the  50 separate pages/articles on voice dialogue, relationships, addictions and personal growth.

2. Some other recent articles (not included in the book "Growing Awareness" published March 2000) are also included on this website.   For a list of these articles click on Other Recent Articles 2004 

3. Earlier articles (not included in the book "Growing Awareness" published March 2000) are also included on this website.   For a list of these articles click on Other Past Articles 2000-2002

4. Miscellaneous articles including personal profile  John Bligh Nutting (personal details and photo) 

5. Bibliography - an extensive list of publications by many different authors (going back to the 1930's).   Models of Multiplicity Ego States and Multipersonality models. These  help trace the sources of ideas on inner self work, psychodrama, sub-personalities, voice dialogue ego states and much more. See also A Short History of the Inner selves

6. Other Articles Miscellaneous 2000-2003

7. Normal Multiple Personalty states in Contrast with DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder. There is a very significant difference between having many different inner selves or personality states within us (which can be normal and healthy or can cause some problems) and DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder (which used to be known as "Multiple Personality Disorder".) Media presenters often fail to appreciate this when they talk about personality issues. In fact they even tend to confuse DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder with Schizophrenia.

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